Lessons I have yet to learn but desperately need to learn and soon:
How to mind my own business and stay in my own damn lane.
I bet you’re the type of person who tracks the people who unfollow them so you can unfollow those bitches right back.
sleepsjustimespentwastingtime asked: I have dipg too! I'm so sorry for you're loss I can only imagine how wonderful your sister was and how many hearts she touched. God bless
You have DIPG? How are you? How long have you been diagnosed? How old are you? I’m sorry I’m asking so many questions, I just have a super soft spot for people with DIPG. Please, feel free to talk to me anytime that you want to.
Also, she was so wonderful. She was really an amazing girl, the best.
I’ll never forget the exact moment my baby sister Ileana left this world. My dad held her and she opened her eyes up for the first time in days and grunted. She peed all over my dad and he laughed, “Ily, you’re going to pee all over dad? Do you think you’re being silly? Are you my silly ily?” he laughed some more, glad to see her out of her coma-like state for the first time in days. Then he stopped laughing.
“Stacy! Call the hospice nurse! She’s not breathing!”
I ran and grabbed the phone, “Dad, it’s okay! Remember, the nurse said sometimes kids stop breathing for a few minutes and then they start again. Don’t panic! It’s okay! She’ll start breathing again, I know she will, this happens all the time.”
My mom grabbed my sister from my dad as I handed him the phone, and I reassured her, “It’s okay, mom, this happens all the time. She’s going to breathe again, please don’t cry, it’s going to be okay.” only this time, tears started to form in my eyes as I realized that it had been three minutes, and the chances of her coming back were fading.
My mom gripped my arm tightly, more tightly than she ever had before.
“Stacy, we need to pray. God wouldn’t do this to us. He wouldn’t take my baby away. We need to pray! We need to beg him for mercy! Get the other kids!”
I gathered them and we held on to Ileana and began to pray, “Padre nuestro, que estas en el cielo, santificado sea tu nombre…” but we were all crying so hard that we ran out of breath and couldn’t finish.
“Ileana, come back to us. Please, come back to us! We love you. We need you. You can’t leave yet, you’re supposed to get better. You’re only six years old, you have so much more to do, please come back to us!”
But she never did, and the next day we went to the funeral home to choose a pretty, white coffin that was less than four feet long and two days after that her body was buried so deep underground that even the memories of me holding her seemed out of reach.
Why do women hate cat calls so much?
This is a serious question, I’ve seen a lot of backlash against them and I would like to know the reason.
A cat call is a quick way of saying “Girl u lookin fine”. Personally, if I a group of random girls told me how fine I looked I would stand taller and feel better about myself throughout the rest of the day
From what I have gathered up, it seems to be offensive because it degrades women. But I don’t get it. The men who cat call aren’t trying to degrade you, they are simply appreciating your looks.
I am probably entirely wrong, that’s why I am asking you now.
I would greatly appreciate it if someone could clarify this for me. If you need a lot of space to write out a long answer, send me a message and I will open up my submit box.
Why do women find cat calls offensive?
Gee, why would women not appreciate men confronting them in a public place in order to declare how fuckable they are in an unsolicited manner?
Why, in a culture that tells women that if they let their guard down around strange men that they will be raped and it will be their fault if they are, would women not appreciate strange men commenting on their bodies in a public place, often while they are walking alone?
Why, in a society where 1/4 women will be sexually assaulted in their lifetime, would women not appreciate being told they have “nice tits!” on the street by men who are often much larger and physically stronger than they are?
Why, in a media landscape that habitually reduces women’s bodies into advertisements for beer and cars and tells women they have judged primarily by absurd and unattainable beauty standards, would a woman not appreciate being complimented solely for having a “nice ass” by a total stranger?
I wonder.
It really is the sexual context that is the issue. It makes me scared that I could be assaulted or raped if I retaliate or call them out on it.
Cat calls are the worst for me. I don’t even get a word, just a sound, in hopes of getting my attention and forcing me to pay attention, like a dog.
But, that’s not the point and you know it. There was a guy I met on the bus the other day and we talked about the traffic and the cubs game and how shitty the cta was, what we do for a living and when I told him I was a cosmetologist he told me he should have known since I was so pretty and I honestly thought that was nice. He wasn’t creepy at all about it at all, and we were having a conversation and it felt very respectful and nice. If I’m walking down the street and people are whistling at me, honking their horns at me or screaming “nice ass” that’s a totally different story. In the first scenario, I’m participating in the conversation and it’s clear to me that I have an option as to whether or not I want to. In the second scenario, I’m just an object and I don’t have a choice.
That is a completely different scenario.
If someone is actually talking with me, having a discussion, and compliments me (without being creepy about it), then it’s a nice compliment. That I don’t take issue with. For me, personally, it’s the sexual context in most scenarios that triggers my paranoia.
Being cat-called at, honked at from a car, or having my body parts yelled about, that’s what’s not okay. OP asked about cat calls specifically. It is a good thing that you put an example in where you made a distinction between complimenting and objectifying.
I don’t know which point I missed?
Oh my god, I was not talking to you. I’m sorry if I’m being blunt or rude and that’s not the intention, but I just don’t get where you got that from. The guy didn’t get that complimenting the girl was not the point of cat calling, and there’s no way that can be denied. That’s what I meant.
I’ve been okay lately but kind of tired and super busy.
Why do women hate cat calls so much?
This is a serious question, I’ve seen a lot of backlash against them and I would like to know the reason.
A cat call is a quick way of saying “Girl u lookin fine”. Personally, if I a group of random girls told me how fine I looked I would stand taller and feel better about myself throughout the rest of the day
From what I have gathered up, it seems to be offensive because it degrades women. But I don’t get it. The men who cat call aren’t trying to degrade you, they are simply appreciating your looks.
I am probably entirely wrong, that’s why I am asking you now.
I would greatly appreciate it if someone could clarify this for me. If you need a lot of space to write out a long answer, send me a message and I will open up my submit box.
Why do women find cat calls offensive?
Gee, why would women not appreciate men confronting them in a public place in order to declare how fuckable they are in an unsolicited manner?
Why, in a culture that tells women that if they let their guard down around strange men that they will be raped and it will be their fault if they are, would women not appreciate strange men commenting on their bodies in a public place, often while they are walking alone?
Why, in a society where 1/4 women will be sexually assaulted in their lifetime, would women not appreciate being told they have “nice tits!” on the street by men who are often much larger and physically stronger than they are?
Why, in a media landscape that habitually reduces women’s bodies into advertisements for beer and cars and tells women they have judged primarily by absurd and unattainable beauty standards, would a woman not appreciate being complimented solely for having a “nice ass” by a total stranger?
I wonder.
It really is the sexual context that is the issue. It makes me scared that I could be assaulted or raped if I retaliate or call them out on it.
Cat calls are the worst for me. I don’t even get a word, just a sound, in hopes of getting my attention and forcing me to pay attention, like a dog.
But, that’s not the point and you know it. There was a guy I met on the bus the other day and we talked about the traffic and the cubs game and how shitty the cta was, what we do for a living and when I told him I was a cosmetologist he told me he should have known since I was so pretty and I honestly thought that was nice. He wasn’t creepy at all about it at all, and we were having a conversation and it felt very respectful and nice. If I’m walking down the street and people are whistling at me, honking their horns at me or screaming “nice ass” that’s a totally different story. In the first scenario, I’m participating in the conversation and it’s clear to me that I have an option as to whether or not I want to. In the second scenario, I’m just an object and I don’t have a choice.
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anexperimentallife:
“A few minutes ago Anderson Cooper asked [Charles Ramsey] if he would like a reward. Charles pulled his paycheck out of his pocket and said, ‘I get a Paycheck. Give the reward to the girls they rescued.’”
THAT’S what we should be talking about, not “how funny those quaint little black people are when they get on camera.”
This guy helps rescue three women, and people are making fun of him? Yeah, he used humor when he told the tale, and sure, it’s appropriate to chuckle when he does so. (Like when he said he “knew there was a problem when a young white girl ran into a black mans arms.”)
But to make fun of him? TO MAKE FUN OF HIM? TO DISRESPECT THIS MAN? THIS HERO?
Fucking shame on you. Dishonor on you, dishonor on your family, dishonor on your cow.
If you’re the kind of scumbag who makes fun of heroes, I suppose you can poke fun at him all you want, but if I’m ever in trouble and need someone to step up the the plate, I hope someone like Charles Ramsey is around.
The world needs millions more people like this man
The radio was saying he deserves a lifetime supply of big macs. It’s so fucked up…he is an actual hero! He did something amazing…honestly, I don’t know if I would have had the courage to do what he did. Call the police, probably, go up to the door and try and do something? I’m not so sure.](http://24.media.tumblr.com/8bea2cab829b39387b2c8fb25c0ae38c/tumblr_mmhm17ch561qgikhco1_400.jpg)
“A few minutes ago Anderson Cooper asked [Charles Ramsey] if he would like a reward. Charles pulled his paycheck out of his pocket and said, ‘I get a Paycheck. Give the reward to the girls they rescued.’”
THAT’S what we should be talking about, not “how funny those quaint little black people are when they get on camera.”
This guy helps rescue three women, and people are making fun of him? Yeah, he used humor when he told the tale, and sure, it’s appropriate to chuckle when he does so. (Like when he said he “knew there was a problem when a young white girl ran into a black mans arms.”)
But to make fun of him? TO MAKE FUN OF HIM? TO DISRESPECT THIS MAN? THIS HERO?
Fucking shame on you. Dishonor on you, dishonor on your family, dishonor on your cow.
If you’re the kind of scumbag who makes fun of heroes, I suppose you can poke fun at him all you want, but if I’m ever in trouble and need someone to step up the the plate, I hope someone like Charles Ramsey is around.
The world needs millions more people like this man
The radio was saying he deserves a lifetime supply of big macs. It’s so fucked up…he is an actual hero! He did something amazing…honestly, I don’t know if I would have had the courage to do what he did. Call the police, probably, go up to the door and try and do something? I’m not so sure.
at monash university in melbourne the women’s department had a bake sale and cupcakes were one dollar for men and eighty cents for women and seventy cents for trans* people to represent the wage gap and heaps of guys kicked off about it being sexist and that’s how i finally understood how hypocritical and ignorant men’s rights activism is
to be fair that is pretty darn sexist… why cant stuff just be EQUAL for everyone?
This completely takes race out of the equation, though. Can we talk about how men of color make less money than white women to every man’s dollar? And women of color are paid the lowest of all?
I’m a little annoyed that every time that I try to spell great, my phone autocorrects it to gr8.
